BOOTY CALLS

Part of a healthy sexual lifestyle is the psychological that goes with the physical. We asked Nina Helms what her thoughts were on 'Booty Calls' since this seemed to be a big topic amongst especially our women.

by Nina Helms
“Booty Call”, “Walk of Shame” and “Getting Laid” all have a negative skew and shed a dark, sin-speckled light on sex, which makes me cringe!

I am pro- great, happy, healthy and responsible sex and feel that all of the above needs to be renamed to reflect the positive. How about “late night passion play” or “badge of honor” instead? Sex is a positive, wondrous activity that is as natural as breathing, eating or laughing.

So, do I recommend booty calls? A resounding yes and an unequivocal no, depending on the circumstances. The important tipping point is your mind set and the health of the relationship; committed or casual. You can happily participate in a booty call if you are doing it mostly to please and gratify yourself, not just the other person. You must also only go if you are doing so completely willingly and are excited about it! If you are feeling pressured, sense you are “giving it away too easily” or if there is suspicion that you will be negatively judged, then absolutely no, don’t go! If you feel empowered asking for or responding to a booty call, then surely yes go. If you feel taken advantage of or are doing it for leverage or in exchange for something then certainly no. Finally, have fun going if the booty calls are once in a while but are not the principle way you have sex with a partner.

Let’s be realistic, our busy schedules frequently don’t allow for a full court press date topped off with a great romp, so occasionally a booty call can fit in beautifully. As sexual beings we long for the affection, attention and intimacy a sexual encounter offers. When done in a positive light, under self-loving and open communication circumstances, a booty call can help maintain our sex lives and greatly satisfy our passion cravings.